I identify as a genderfluid queer person, and I use they/any pronouns.
Let me break that down, one piece at a time, for clarity’s sake:
|genderfluid||My gender identity and expression shift with context. Most of the time, I feel agender, in neutral settings like work meetings. Sometimes, I feel more feminine, and others, I feel more masculine, which is in line with my assigned sex and others’ perceptions.|
|queer||I like the looseness and inclusiveness of the word queer. It doesn’t prescribe an identity, or limit your sexual or emotional lives. But it isn’t straight; and neither am I. Usually, I am attracted to masculine-bodied people, but by no means exclusively. The body and heart and mind go where they go.|
|person||I am genderfluid. Most of the time, gender is a mindset, and I feel most at home as an agender creature navigating the world with love and magic—a person. I am an enby, a nonbinary human. I was assigned to the male sex at birth and have male features, but that does not define me. I am slowly working through the complex process of switching to the X gender identifier on my documents, and embracing more fluidity.|
|they/any||Given my genderfluidity, I really appreciate being referred to as they/them. Using they/them pronouns is an act of shared love and revolution. I also welcome people to use any pronouns they want or feel suit me in the moment, as I do not seek to live with frustration about pronouns despite their importance to my and others’ identities. I do my best to respect others’ pronouns with solidarity and love.|
- 2010-2014: Harvard anxious d-hallflowers
- 2014-2018: Toronto workaday gays
- 2018-2020: Oakland queer free spirits
- 2020-now: Vancouver radical queer activists
From 2014 to 2018, I co-led Bain’s BGLAD chapter in Toronto. When me and my pal Chris Chan started in 2014, we were the only ones out in our office. Soon, we built a recruiting dynamo and more than tripled the size of BGLAD Toronto. We were keynote speakers at the 2016 biennial BGLAD Summit in Chicago, sharing our strategy across Bain.
When I started at Rivian in 2020, we had a Slack channel for queer employees and that was it. I collaborated with a group of amazing co-workers to build the LGBTQ2IA+ focused Rainbow Rivianites, one of our first Belonging Resource Groups, which is now a fully-fledged and rapidly growing grassroots organization serving our growing team.
In 2021, I was the Vice Chair of Vancouver’s 2SLGBTQ+ Advisory Committee, with a radical queer perspective that centred Indigenous context, oppressed communities, climate truth, and queer futurism. I left the committee due to the way it served as an empty stamp of approval for a bureaucracy that does not meaningfully engage the queer community as it makes its decisions, and to have more freedom to pursue my own interests and initiatives and manage my workload.
I developed a rich list of questions on identities with my Rainbow Rivianites colleagues. In the end, we didn’t use them; I am publishing an adapted version of the questions below as a fun bit of anonymous research. I hope you find them thought-provoking!
They are in an anonymous Google Form; you can access by visiting https://forms.gle/JLkvWfF5qLNH7SGD8
I will embed some charts here in this page if people fill out the above!